Pinsight

Pinsight

  • Solutions
    • Hiring
    • Development
    • Succession Planning
  • Platform
    • Virtual Assessment Center
    • SimManager
    • People Analytics
  • Resources
    • Latest Research
    • Knowledge Base
    • Blog
    • Success Stories
    • Webinars & Events
    • About Us
  • Request a Demo
  • Sign In
Previous PostNext Post

4 Hacks for Dealing with Difficult People

You know the difficult type – always resisting your requests. People tend to avoid new ideas and change whenever they can and oppose them when they can’t. Any request that people do things differently has the potential to be met with resistance. As a leader, you need to understand where the opposition is coming from, address any strong emotions head-on, and focus on finding common ground.

At work, you must be skilled at overcoming resistance to effectively align teams with organizational strategy, increase customer satisfaction, and implement new systems and processes. If you don’t address sources of resistance early on and show people that you’re on their side, their negativity can spread. What started as a single resistant individual can grow into an entire resistance movement in the organization and undermine your ability to achieve organizational goals.

Overcoming resistance means eliminating people’s reluctance to change by addressing their fears and objections and convincing them to take action. In our extensive research and testing of nearly 800 executives for The Leader Habit, my team and I discovered the micro-behaviors that effective leaders do to overcome resistance.

Exercise #1: Address Fears

Resistance usually comes from strong negative emotions, such as when people feel threatened by change or fear it. Acknowledging these negative emotions and helping people to name them is an effective way to overcome resistance.

  1. Exercise: Get in the habit of asking about people’s fears and reluctance using this exercise: After noticing even the slightest resistance, ask a question to learn about the person’s concerns by saying, “Can you tell me what about this may not feel right to you?”
  2. Solution: For example, a colleague may show slight resistance in the form of an “I agree with you, but …” statement, and you could ask, “Can you tell me what about this doesn’t feel right to you?”

Exercise #2: Highlight Benefits of Change

On the rational level, resistance may also come from misunderstanding the change or a lack of awareness of its benefits. You can practice selling individuals on the benefits of change using this exercise:

  1. Exercise: After identifying a procedure that you need to change, ask yourself, “How will people benefit from changing this workflow?” Please write it down in one sentence.
  2. Solution: For example, the benefit of streamlining your quality assurance process would be that employees have fewer checklists to fill out, resulting in less required overtime. 

Exercise #3: Find Two Areas of Agreement

This micro-behavior requires making a conscious effort to periodically summarize areas of agreement during a discussion, which demonstrates to the other person that you are on his side, not his enemy.

  1. Exercise: Practice this exercise: After starting a conversation, focus on finding two areas of agreement. Summarize each one as soon as you discover it by saying, “It seems to me that we agree on …, is that correct?”
  2. Solution: For example, you could agree that you are both committed to addressing the issue under discussion, and you both want to reach a mutually agreeable solution to the problem.

Exercise #4: Identify and Highlight Shared Goals

It is easier to overcome resistance to convince people that action is linked with their career and/or development goals.

  1. Exercise: Use this exercise to practice identifying shared goals: After finishing a meeting, write down one goal that you share with the other people involved in the discussion.
  2. Solution: For example, your shared goal could be to have a smooth product launch or increase customer satisfaction.

Conclusion

By making these behaviors part of your daily routine, you will be on your way to overcoming resistance and avoiding the spread of negativity. Want to learn how you can put the right leaders in place to lead your organization through times of change? Request a Consult, and we’ll be in touch to see how you can prepare your organization for your ever-changing future.

‹ Previous PostNext Post ›

About the Author

Martin Lanik
Martin Lanik

Leadership Team

Fairness is Martin’s driving principle that is reflected in his life philosophy: the power and status that come with leadership roles should be awarded based on merit and not based on what people look like or where they come from. Martin has dedicated his career to creating solutions that help business leaders place the most capable people in leadership positions, where they can have the greatest positive impact on employees’ well-being, business performance, our communities, and the society at large. With a background in Industrial/Organizational Psychology, Martin leads research and innovation for Pinsight. By combining his scientific mind with straightforward practicality and a relentless bias for action, his teams build the best talent solutions for the leaders of today and tomorrow.

You Might Also Like

20210906 Featured
Blog| 09/06/21

Driving Development from Simulation Results

by Amy Huber

Keep Reading
Blog| 06/07/21

Top 6 Tips for Successfully Retaining Pre-Hires Through Pre-Boarding

by Linda Hall

Keep Reading
Blog| 03/15/21

4 Things Online Assessment Centers Can Do for Your Business

by Martin Lanik

Keep Reading

Pioneer change, start today

Get Started

Pinsight

Our Solutions

  • Hiring
  • Development
  • Succession Planning

Our Platform

  • Virtual Assessment Center
  • SimManager
  • People Analytics

Company

  • About Us
  • Data Security
  • Request a Demo

Resources

  • Blog
  • Publications
  • Success Stories
  • Podcasts/Webinars
  • Knowledge Base
  • Customer Support
Copyright Pinsight 2023
  • Data Security and Privacy